Don’t do anything. Don’t do shi*.
There IS no secret. No potion. No trick. Ladies, love just…happens.
That’s it. It just happens. Love happens when you make a hurried trip to the DMV, and you put your hair in a ponytail, and you throw on sweats…and the guy standing behind you in line melts because of your natural beauty. Love happens when you are in the grocery store, buying fruit, and a guy asks you questions about kiwi fruit..and he falls for you because of your intelligent, insightful opinion. Love happens when-we-aren’t-looking.
I get it. Women finding a husband (or a boyfriend) is something (many, but not all) women are conditioned to do (that’s for another column). Marriage for most women is the endgame. But ladies, you can’t plan to fall in love. You can’t scheme for it. You can’t schedule for love. The universe doesn’t work that way.
The one thing you can do (I’ll expand on this topic in a future column), is to totally be yourself. That’s what you want a man to fall in love with, ultimately. If you are witty and sarcastic, be witty and sarcastic. If you are bright and earthy, be that. The worst thing that you can do is to twist your looks, personality, and overall DNA to please a man and make him fall in love with you. The man of your dreams, he’ll love your quirky humor and your love handles.
Love is going to come. Keep living your kick-as* life.
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This article originally appeared at The Good Men Project